Becoming a Survivor

I run a tumblr about gender violence and related issues. With your permission, I would like to post about your site. Your story and strength is incredible and inspiring.

Much love,
genderviolence

Fri, 17 Dec 2010 19:07:19 -0500

You may post about my site, as long as it’s respectful (which I’m sure it will be). I...

Broken

Tue, 16 Nov 2010 15:57:37 -0500

[Trigger warning: this post is about the aftermath of sexual violence and makes references to...

Hey there. I have just come across your blog and read some of your posts. Your blog is very powerful and I am very moved by your posts. I also want to tell you how sorry I am about what happened to you, and how much I admire you for choosing to survive. Keep well.

Tue, 16 Nov 2010 15:43:54 -0500

Thank you. I’ve been gone for a little while but am trying to get back to it. This helped.

A secret

Thu, 04 Nov 2010 17:19:08 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual imagery and the aftermath of sexual violence] I post...

Confronting the past

Mon, 25 Oct 2010 23:45:53 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post vaguely discusses emotionally abusive relationships.] So…...

dreams

Sun, 24 Oct 2010 14:10:28 -0400

I dreamed last night that I was measuring myself and every part of me measured 1 inch no matter what...

Home

Thu, 21 Oct 2010 00:45:49 -0400

This week is not going well. I’m not good at drama. I hate drama. And when drama manifests...

Mondays

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 16:22:27 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post discusses the aftermath of sexual violence] I have a hard time watching...

Can I say I think you're a hero for surviving?

I hear the term "rape victim" being used a lot around. I consider any woman who is alive and living to be a rape SURVIVOR, not a victim. I think it should be a term of empowerment.

I'm sick of all the views that go around, about how rape is the woman's fault, how she should be ashamed because she triggered it, there is a shit load of misogynistic views related to the whole act of sexual violence. I live in a part of the world where women are viewed as sex objects by a lot of people. There are a lot of expats here that come from Third World countries (India and Pakistan and Afghanistan) and they have even worst views on women. In some of those countries, a woman will get raped by her family as punishment for shaming the family name. I've heard countless stories where a lot of things similar happened.

I want to say that you are a hero. I do not know what you are going through, and I might never know, but I am standing here in solidarity with you.

26 year old male.

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 16:16:00 -0400

Thank you for your solidarity. Male allies are really important to me. There are a lot of men in my...

"On Punctuation not for me the dogma of the period  preaching order and a sure conclusion  and no..."

Fri, 15 Oct 2010 02:57:00 -0400

“On Punctuation not for me the dogma of the period  preaching order and a sure...

How Do You Fuck a Fat Woman? by Kate Harding

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 17:06:16 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual violence and includes violent victim-blaming and...

Book worth reading: Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual...

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 16:06:40 -0400

Book worth reading: Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power & A World Without Rape

This book is a series of essays that look at rape outside of the context portrayed by the media, examine rape culture, and confront our constructed ideas of what a survivor/victim looks like. It takes consent out of the context of saying no to what it means to say yes and looks at nonconsensual sex as any sexual experience a person didn’t want.

I haven’t read every essay yet, but those so far have been extremely powerful to me.

Why sharing is important...

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 14:31:13 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual violence] These are some thoughts on why sharing my...

Photo

Thu, 14 Oct 2010 14:20:00 -0400

"Survival is not an academic skill. it is learning how to stand alone, unpopular and sometimes..."

Tue, 12 Oct 2010 14:00:43 -0400

“Survival is not an academic skill. it is learning how to stand alone, unpopular and sometimes...

Hot Fat Girl Manifesto

Mon, 11 Oct 2010 02:07:49 -0400

Hot Fat Girl Manifesto: sugaredvenom: Because being a hot fat girl is a lot of work and is...

You are amazing my dear. I too am a rape victim. I attend school with my rapist and sometimes I wish that I had passed out, died, anything so I wouldn't have to wake up screaming, wake up crying, wake up sweating. Run the other way in school, go out to my car and see he parked next to me, throw up at the sound of his voice. Let's be friends. I'm trying to surround myself with fellow survivors, as I am 16 and sometimes just want to let go and give up. You are a hero, and now one of my idols. Stay strong <3

Sun, 10 Oct 2010 16:40:25 -0400

I’m sorry that happened. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you seeing your rapist...

sexismandthecity: Audre Lorde (1934-1992): “I write for those...

Sat, 09 Oct 2010 22:01:47 -0400

sexismandthecity:

Audre Lorde (1934-1992): “I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We’ve been taught that silence would save us, but it won’t.”

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Audre Lorde=automatic reblog

What I want my words to do to you

Fri, 08 Oct 2010 13:46:43 -0400

[Trigger warning: this post discusses sexual violence and the aftermath] I want my words to paint...

What exactly is a Trigger warning? I read a few of your posts and I've never heard of them. Would you be kind enough to fill me in so i could get a basic gist of what this is all about?

Thu, 07 Oct 2010 00:24:38 -0400

That’s a good question. A trigger warning, in context of a blog, would be as simple of...